Here's a message that needs to be drilled into the hearts and minds of every mom and dad: You don't love your kids because of what they do, but because of who they are.
Simply rewarding children with affection because of their accomplishments is like a circus trainer giving a dog some food every time he jumps through a hoop. The dog isn't loved for himself, but for his actions.
Dr. Laura Schlessinger, has a new book for children titled, "Why Do You Love Me?" Part of the story includes a mother explaining to her son that it is not what he does that makes her love him -- she loves him because he is unique and because he is her son.
You don't show affection simply because a child is good at sport or science. Every mom, dad and grandparent needs to memorize the words of a long-time popular song: "I love you most of all because you're you."
I read a magazine while ago, about the football coach, He has his son on his team..He son is the star of his team. One day a reporter interviewed him and ask him, you must be proud of your son because he is a great player on your team. His answer make me swelled with tears he said " I proud of my son even he is not score any goal, because I proud of him just because the way he is not because his performance.
I took years for me to realize that my father proud of me the way I am. I was misunderstood for may years. I try to do the best things I could just to make him proud, yet I always feel that I haven't done anything good enough for him or for my mom.
Now I am a mom, I will learn to communicate it right with my son, that I love him and proud of him just the way he is, and not because of his performance, achievement.
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